How To Change Your Life
Life, as I know all too well, can suck. It can seem like nothing is going your way. Your parents are unreasonable, your teacher grades you unfairly, your job requires you to wear a hat. As a teenager it sometimes seems like there is nothing you can do about this. You are too young to move out probably and if you are old enough, you work at the hat job and therefore are broke. You can’t get a better job because you have to go to school where your teacher gives you bad grades for no apparent reason. It is really frustrating sometimes being young.
Sometimes you just have to realize that it is only temporary and get through the next few years. But there are many thing you can do right now to make your life better.
Improve Your Attitude:
As hard as it is, you create your own happiness. No one makes you unhappy, you do it to yourself. Here is an occasion where I need to take my own advice sometimes. Just because you are stuck in a situation that you are unhappy about does not mean you need to spend all your time dwelling on how much life sucks. There are benefits to being a teenager. Enjoy what you have when you have it. Learn to accept what you cannot change.
Find a Goal:
One of the most frusterating things I think about being a teenager is the lack of doing anything of any meaning. Sure school is important. But most of the things you learn at school is rather useless. High School is pretty much there to keep all the teenagers occupied and to teach them to be diciplined. It is also there to give everyone a general knowledge of everything so you can have a conversation with people about a variety of topics and have something to say about everything.
So as I spent four years wasting away in that institution, I felt very very bored and like I was wasting my life. I needed a goal to work towards. Something that meant something. So I started this website. Maybe for you this could be learning a new sport, getting in shape, writing a book. Remember, just because you are young does not mean that you can’t do anything you want.
Be More Positive:
Negativity=Unhappiness. It’s really that simple. Sure, overly positive people can be annoying. So can really pesimistic people that have nothing good to say about anyone or anything. No one wants to be around people like that. It can be incredibly hard to break a negative attitude, especially if your friends are also negative. Just remember that if you wear negative glasses, everything will look awful, if you wear positive glasses, everything will look so much better. The only thing that changed is you.
Get Better Friends:
Teens spend more time with their friends than anyone else in their lives. There is a saying that I like to live by: “You are the sum of the 10 people you spend the most time with.” Are your friends people that you aspire to be? Sure you may like your friends, but are they good influences on you? Ever notice how the high achieving people at school hang around together? That is not by coincidence. If half those people hung around underachieving people, they would be just like them.
Humans are incredibly easily influenced. Everyone at your school probably dresses similar, talks similar, and likes the same kind of music. We love to fit in. This is not neccesarily a bad thing unless the people you are around are losers. It’s hard but maybe it is time for some new friends.
Talk To Your Parents:
Are you having issues at home? Tons of teens are. They don’t want to go home because it is so miserable. If your parents are always fighting, its too messy, or if you are being abused you need to do something about it! You are not just a kid. You are a person. You deserve to live in a comfortable place that you can develop healthfully. If there is a major issue you need to talk to your parents. Don’t be accusatory or angry when you do it. Simply say:” I would really appreciate it if you could discuss this in private, it upsets me.” or whatever the issue may be.
Maybe the only way that you can be happy is to move out. If your parents don’t care about your happiness, maybe another relative will, or the police.
Open Your Own Buisness:
If you really don’t like your crappy job, open a buisness. The teen years is actually a great time to do this because you have tons of free time, no kids, and really nothing to lose. A buisness that you open now can lead to clients in your adult years.
You can open a pet buisness like a snow shoveling buisness, baking buisness, or babysitting. This is a good, classic strategy. There are many resources online that you can use to start a buisness like this.
You could also open a web based buisness. The internet is good for teens because they are computer savvy and no one will know how old you are over the internet. Maybe start a blog and put ads on it, sell stuff on ebay, write e books.
Break Up With Your Crappy GF/BF:
As a rule, teenage boys make terrible boyfriends. Fun, but terrible. They don’t call when they say they will, they are bad kissers, they are more interested in video games than treating you well. There are of course exeptions. Seek out an exception. You are too good of a person to be with someone that makes you unhappy. Your time is too precious to deal with some dumb boy that doesn’t appreciate you. There will always be more. Even if another boy doesn’t come along right away, its ok! You have goals and have other things to do.
Although being a teenage girl is difficult and can feel like there is nothing you can do to change it, there is! Don’t fool yourself into thinking you aren’t in control of your life. Because you are.