How to Be The Queen Bee of Your High School
If you are a teen, you probably go to High School. Many teenagers would love nothing more than being the most popular girl on campus. This is understandable. With popularity comes parties, boyfriends, and celebrity (on a small scale obviously).
I was never really popular honestly. It never interested me. The kids that went to my school were not people that i wanted to spend any time or effort trying to impress. However, I did spend four long years going to High School and have observed my peers. Here is my guide to becoming popular in High School.
1. Get your head in the game
Anyone can be popular. Really. It doesn’t matter what you look like, if you play sports, if you are rich. You can be popular. Let me repeat that: anyone can be popular. Look at the popular kids in your school. I’m sure many of them are attractive and athletically gifted. However, I am sure there will be a few that are average looking. Some may be downright fugly. So what makes these people more special than you? Absolutely nothing.
But to be honest, looks do matter in High School. Make the best out of what you got. This can be as easy as putting on some makeup and making sure your hair looks decent everyday. As for your clothes, I don’t reccomend going to the mall and buying expensive clothes to make you look like a carbon copy of the current ‘it girl’. Popular brands are fine in small doses. You need to stand out. Try to dress attractively but not exactly like all the other girls that want to be popular in your grade. You need to stand out. Pepper your look with small elements that assure the popular kids that you will fit in with them. Like maybe wearing your hair similar to the other girls. Or wearing your hair similar, but your clothes are unique. If you are emo however, you might have to change your look unless you are trying to be popular among emo kids.
If you are unattractive it is fine. However, you will need to compensate for it. This means you will have to have a big personality. You will have to be really funny, really nice, really whatever. There has to be a reason for them to keep you around.
2. Pick a group of popular kids
Think about your high school. Most schools have similar social structure. There are groups of students that are friends and are popular. Here are the most common ‘popular’ groups:
- Jocks: Athletic and social. Hereos of the school.
- Highly Social People: These people have no claim to fame other than they seem to know everyone, and everyone knows them.
- Smart Kids: These kids all bond over clubs, SAT classes, and their 4.0 GPAs. They are active in everything and everyone knows them. They are not nerds however. Nerds do not have a high social status.
Think about which group you would fit into most easily. Maybe if you are a Nerd, the Smart Kids would be a good fit. If you are athletic, become a Jock. Highly Social People are probably your best bet however. Anyone can fit in this group and it does not require you have any particular characteristics.
3. Make A Friend In Your Chosen Group
Pick someone in your new group. It does not have to be the leader of the group. In fact, I would reccomend someone on the outer edge. They will be easier to become friends with. Think of someone that you are already friendly with in the group. This is your new best friend.
Talk to her at school. The first week have daily conversations about her. . After about a week friend her on Facebook and make a few comments. Take it gradually, this is one of the slowest parts of the process. Don’t push the friendship if it isn’t going anywhere. There are plent of other low level popular people you can be friends with. No one likes to be pestered, so don’t be annoying.
4. Sit With Your New Friend At Lunch
After about two weeks, ask her if it would be ok if you sit with her at lunch. Say your usual table is full or something. When she accepts, sit by her. THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT DAY OF THIS WHOLE PROCESS! If you are too quiet or otherwise are not ‘cool’ you will undue all your hard work.
If she is low rank, you will be sitting at the lower social status side of the table. This is good! Network! Talk to everyone, laugh, be merry! Become friends with all the lower level people of the group. This is the time where you need to be as charming as you can. This day is cruicial. You are making a first impression on the clique that will make you popular.
Continue to sit at the table for the rest of the week. Stop asking after that first day. Just sit there. The second day people might be taken aback, but continue to sit there. Your old friends may be angry at you, but if you want to be popular you have to hang out with the popular kids. I wouldn’t reccomend cutting ties with your old friends altogether yet, but definately distance yourself.
At the end of the week, ask your new friend to do something on the weekend. If she is already doing something, like going to a party, ask if you can come! Use your judgement however on if you should invite yourself. Parties and small groups over three are fine. Anything other than that, just ask about another night. When you go out with her make sure it’s a fun time. It doesn’t matter if you just go to a movie or the mall, be conversational and fun to be around.
5. Expand
You have now laid the groundwork for popularity. Continue to sit at your new lunch table and make friends with all the lower level people of the group. Text them, go out with them, go to their parties. Once you have officially established yourself as a member of the group, work your way upwards. Become friends with the people closest to the Queen Bee. Stop associating yourself with your unpopular friends at least at school.
Don’t be a wannnabe. Don’t worship the higher level kids. Act like you are just as good as them and are already one of them. The Queen Bee will probably be feeling threatened by you by now. This is good. You can begin to form friendships with the Queen Bee at this time, but make sure that her closest friends also like you.
Begin to talk to people of other popular cliques. Date a jock, study with a Smart Kid, etc. Begin to go to their parties.
6. Do something big
Now is the time to drop the bomb. Do something that the school can’t ignore. Start a fight, break up dramatically in the hallways, have a great party, or be awesome in the talent show. Make sure it gets you noticed. It doesn’t neccesarily have to put you in a good light, but it shouldn’t tarnish your reputation too much. Just make sure that everyone will be talking about it for at least a day.
After you do this, lots of people should know your name. Use your 15 minutes of fame to spring into true popularity. Ask the most popular kids in your school to hang out and become real friends with them. Not just your new clique, but other popular cliques.
7. Secure Your New Social Status
Now that you are popular, you need to always be on your game. Look good everyday and say hi to all your new friends in the hallway. Go to parties regularily. Always sit with the popular kids at lunch. Date a high ranking boy. You know that you made it when you are voted Prom Queen or Homecoming Queen.Once you are on top it takes less effort to stay on top. Just watch out for other social climbers that want to take your place.
Congradulations. You have changed yourself so that you are universally admired. Fabulous.
Popularity in High School is alot of work. It was never a goal of mine because I chose to be myself and not worry about what others thought of me, but for some teens this is a major goal. If you want to be popular, this is the method.
Related Links:
http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Popular
http://www.wikihow.com/Become-the-Queen-Bee-of-Your-School
http://www.lightningshock.com/2008/04/25/how-to-become-popular-in-high-school/